God grant me wisdom

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  1. Ross Martin says:

    what a great visual, really inspiring! Hope you don’t mind if I print a copy off for my office! Keep up the good work Randy.. RM

  2. Mariluz Fulcar says:

    In these days that I sit daily and pray to god and look at my children whom I raised trying to protect them from drugs, and the streets never leaving there side giving up everything to be able to provide for them. I find that everything I did I have must have done wrong my sons are on the streets using drugs verbally abusive to there father and I in prison doing time because of friends whom have and continue to lead them in the wrong paths. As a mother that was never loved or wanted what is dearest to me today I lose to the streets. All I ask of the lord is to take me I do not want to continue to live this life any longer I am tired lost always helping other but always alone. As I sit here and type you this text tears of suffering run down from my eyes because I am not a cold hearted person I always try to help whom ever needth my help but no one cares about me.

  3. Margaret says:

    Mariluz, your words make me cry. If I knew where you lived, I would come right over and do what I could for you. I’m not a counselor, but I think you need some help to cope with your situation. If you belong to a Church, your Bishop or Priest or Pastor would be a good place to start. There are people who care and are trained to help. And, of course, we all have a very loving Savior and a Father in Heaven who care much more than we know. Please do seek help!

  4. Rusty Lindquist says:


    My heart broke as I read your words. You expressed the deepest emotions of a loving, conscientious, and righteous parent who is feeling the weight of the world. A weight which at times, can seem nearly unbearable. Let me say this:

    I care about you.

    But more importantly, I know with absolute certainty that the Lord cares about you. Let me explain…

    Lately, the Jaws of Life have simply opened up and devoured me. I’ve never been so busy. Consequently, I haven’t checked my blog comments in weeks. But tonight, in the middle of a date with my perfect wife, I suddenly had the distinct, interrupting impression that I needed to check those comments. Now. So I did, and yours is what I found.

    Do you know what that tells me? That tells me that above all, there is one who does care, who is aware of you. Who loves you enough to shake me out of my slumber so that I could hear your plea, and attempt at least the feeblest of replies.

    Nephi in the Book of Mormon, quotes Isaiah 49:16 and says:

    “Behold, I have graven the upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.” (1 Nephi 21:16)

    I know that the Lord lives. I know that he knows you. That he cares about you. That your walls, those barriers that continually confront you, are also continually before Him. He is aware of them.

    I am a father of 6 children myself, and I cannot yet comprehend the emotional turmoil I would feel watching just one of them make decisions that would lead to such pain (not just their own). I know it must be overwhelming.

    In the Book of Mormon, I know that Lehi, struggling over the wickedness of his two sons, Lamen and Lemuel, says that he was brought down near unto death, so great was his pain:

    Because of their grief and much sorrow, and the iniquity of my brethren, they were brought near even to be carried out of this time to meet their God; yea, their grey hairs were about to be brought down to lie low in the dust; yea, even they were near to be cast with sorrow into a watery grave. (1 Nephi 18:18)

    If a very prophet of God can feel so much pain and suffering over the sins of his children, then you should not feel bad, nor guilty, nor weak, from feeling the same.

    You are not weak. On the contrary, it means you are strong. It means you are not “past feeling”, that you are brave enough, smart enough, righteous enough, and strong enough to care, to feel that burden, and to reach out for help. Realizing our own mortal imperfections is a sign of humility, not weakness.

    Neither should you feel unnecessarily burdened with guilt or doubt about your incalculable efforts and innumerable sacrifices as a parent. The “natural man” is born within us all, and we are each given the gift of free agency. The gift that allows us the right to choose, right or wrong, in spite of the overwhelming influences that have surrounded us.

    Here we find a prophet of God, who clearly is one who would have nurtured, and provided an environment of righteousness for his children, suffering because of the sins of his children. Even our very Creator has innumerable hosts of children who reject His ways, even reject HIM, because of their free agency.

    But that is in no way a reflection of his qualification as a Heavenly Parent. Rather, it is an indication of the importance of that very free agency for which He has paid such a price.

    So while it is natural, courageous, and righteous of you to find yourself weighed down with sorrow, let this knowledge buoy you up, and fill you with hope and faith. For your role, and your ability to influence the course of their lives is not lessened by time, but strengthened by it. As you turn to your Father in Heaven in ongoing, heartfelt prayer, you are yet able to draw down the powers of heaven to impact their lives.

    God is great. He has the power to do all things. No one with eyes to see can doubt that. Then why not great enough to influence them, even in the darkest time of their lives.

    Indeed, often it is in those darkest of times that they are most likely to recognize his presence. Such it was with Paul. Turned from an enemy of God to one of His strongest, most devout and faithful servants. Such it was with Alma the younger in the Book of Mormon, and countless others.

    Sometimes it is in the darkest pit of our lives that we find the light of Christ. And the righteous prayers of a persistent parent echo in the ears of our Eternal Father.

    So my message to you is one of love, of comfort, and of faith. You… are… loved. Your Father knows your heart and hears your prayers.

    You are right to care, and to be weighed down, but please don’t give up hope. The simple fact that you are so touched means that you are connected – imagine how our Father in Heaven feels, as He watches His children across the world… so much pain. But he does not blame himself, nor does He love them less, and never, ever does He give up hope for them.

    The paths of life are long and winding, and sometimes it takes an awful long time for some of them to find their way. But patience, never ending love, and Faith in our Father are the powers that parents hold for their children.

    You can splash water on a rock, once, twice, or a hundred times, and never see a difference. But a river that never stops will create a chasm in the even hardest of environments.

    I’m proud of you for caring so much, for being a conscientious parent. The world needs more parents like you. I’m honored to get to know you, and I pray for your well being, and for your success.

    Would you do me one small favor, and find the time to watch this video… You are loved. It’s short, but I feel like it might be worth your time.

    Please, return often. We all can benefit from associating with each other.

    With sincere, and heartfelt love.


  5. Randy R. says:


    It is in these loneliest of times, with many tears running down our cheeks and through the deepest sorrows in the heart where God shows us the differences between Him and us. Throughout all creation His chosen children have been also been disobedient, full of pride, cursing, and wanting to go their own way.

    Take for example the story of Moses and the leading out of the Israelites from Egypt. God performed many incredible miracles through Moses to convince Pharaoh to let “My people go”. While parting the Red Sea, He led His people through to safety and afterwards destroyed the Egyptian army chasing them from behind. He fed them in the desert with manna that fell from the sky. And after all this, while Moses was on the mountain top receiving the commandments written on the tablets and with lightning and thunder shaking the earth below, what were His people doing? They were making a golden calf and worshiping it as if it were God.

    And in the gospels we read Jesus saying:

    “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, which killest the prophets, and stonest them that are sent unto thee; how often would I have gathered thy children together, as a hen doth gather her brood under her wings, and ye would not”

    ‘And when he was come near, he beheld the city, and wept over it”

    And in Acts, Stephen accuses them of the ultimate crime, the murder of God’s son, Jesus.

    “Ye stiff-necked and uncircumcised in heart and ears, ye do always resist the Holy Spirit; as your fathers did, so do ye. Which of the prophets have not your fathers persecuted? And they have slain them who showed before of the coming of the Just One, of whom ye have been now the betrayers and murderers; who have received the law by the disposition of angels, and have not kept it.”

    Has your creator destroyed the earth? Has He pulled the plug on humanity. Absolutely Not! He continues to send the rains to water the earth to feed us because of His never ending love for us.

    Likewise, Mariluz, you may express that you want to end it all, but God is not amused in your wailing of self pity. Really, what are you going to say to him face to face? I just couldn’t hope and love them any longer Lord! Mariluz, Confess your Sin!

  6. Margaret says:

    Mariluz, Rusty’s answer was so much better than mine. That’s why he is the one to author this blog. He is truly inspired.

    I have known the hopeless feeling of having a child go astray. I don’t talk about it very often, because it is now in the past. I struggled for years trying to figure out what I had done wrong, and trying to find a way to make it right. Finally, after many tears, prayers, and sleepless nights, and fearing my child wouldn’t survive to be 18, the answer came that what I really needed to do was just love her and turn her over to the Lord.

    I read a book about children who stray that told me we should pray for 4 things:

    1 That my child would be protected from harm and evil

    2 That I would be inspired to do and say things that would help (not hinder) my child,

    3 That my child would have experiences that would bring her back to righteousness.

    4 That others would come into my child’s life that would influence her for good.

    This was how I began praying every day. It took a few more years, but gradually she came back. With the help of a wonderful young man (who is now my son-in-law) she has become everything I could have hoped she would be.

    The Lord does answer prayers. He knows the end from the beginning, and answers them on his time table. I have no idea why my child did and went through all that she did, and she doesn’t either, but we are grateful for the good outcome!

  7. Margaret says:

    I had given my copy of the book away and couldn’t remember the exact title. After doing some research, I believe the title is “Rescuing Wayward Children: When a Loved One Goes Astray” by Robert Millet. If you Google the title you can probably order a copy online.


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